One of my awesome mentors, Michael Dlouhy, and a key Life Lesson: When You Get It From Your Head to Your Heart You Will OWN Your Life!
YOU MUST BELIEVE YOU DESERVE SUCCESS IN ORDER TO SUCCEED!!
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a 20 dollar note. In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this 20 dollar note?” Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this to one of you but first, let me do this.”
He proceeded to crumple up the 20 dollar note. He then asked, “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air. Well, he replied, “What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. Still the hands went into the air. “My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value.
It was still worth 20 bucks. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.”
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to the universe and those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE. You are special - Don’t EVER forget it. Visit my Success site to see how I found my true worth!
This is from my awesome mentor Sarah Thompson
I have been a member of Mentoring For Free for 22 months, a group of “TRULY” like minded individuals, (yes, I said individuals each with their own unique strengths). I have been provided the opportunity to watch as people join this group and grow into true Mentors- To tell ya the truth, it was a bit weird at first, seeing people help people with no (absolutely zero) financial reward. Although we know this is how it is supposed to be, I have never dreamed it really existed, a large group of people such as these Mentors.
Ever Wondered What a Mentor Should Be, Should Do?
Mentor defined:
Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends. I have found the word goes back to Homer’s Odyssey a story which tells how before leaving on his long journey, Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide his son. That friend’s name was Mentor.
Having been with Mentoring for Free less than a month, has allowed me to study and make some observations from the book by Marc Freedman, “The kindness of strangers” that there are 7 habits of highly effective mentors and they are first and foremost
1. Listening -- It is the only way mentors can understand what people are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.
2. Building a relationship -- In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to take time to build a relationship and establish a firm connection. this means carefully cultivating trust, it means being patient. Many people will test mentors to see if they are for real.
3. Respecting boundaries -- When mentors ask people personal questions before a solid relationship has been established, the most common response is silence. People will clam up. Mentors who do not respect their mentees’ needs for privacy are often quick to alienate them.
4. Being sensitive to differences -- It is necessary to realize that mentors and those they work with come from different worlds, a reality even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged. This means being aware of the embarrassment a person might feel about being poor.
5. Providing support and challenges -- Successful mentors are consistently there for people, delivering a sustained message ‘You are important” when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling people what to do and instead work with them to address the problems. These mentors are eventually able to strike a balance between supporting and challenging both nurturing people and pushing them toward their goals.
6. Acknowledging reciprocity -- While mentors often have to provide the initiative early in the relationship as trust is being established, mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and struggles are present on both sides, and mentors who are able to convey they are there for mutual exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest chance of making a solid connection.
7. Being realistic -- Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin, tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few virtues in mentoring rival on going commitment and genuine caring.
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And Another Great Life Lesson from My Friend Patti
I AM exactly what MY dominant thoughts have created me to BE. And the good news is that IF I don’t like that result, I CAN change it by changing what MY dominant thoughts are right now…and every moment hereafter. If I do not have the gumption to write my self-talk and say it out loud as well as silently all day, every day…then, I have no excuses…no amount of whining about my past or my present situation is going to do squat to improve my situation.
But taking the bull by the horns and doing my self-talk with “green diligence”…no matter what color personality you are…that’s the only way to get it done. If I am going to control my wandering thoughts instead of letting them control me…it’s going to take some massive effort on my part. Now how tough is it to know that it can be done that simply?
That may in fact be 95% of the problem…it’s just too simple. We think if we’re this “messed up”, then the solution to the problem is obviously complicated. It’s not. But my self-discipline has to kick in and stay kicked in for the duration, that’s how I’ve come to believe every single thing that I believe today. I was just doing it “on automatic”. That means I’ve allowed myself, thru neglect, to accept other people’s programming. But now, things are different…now that I’m a critical thinker, I DECIDE how to think and therefore…what to think!
When my subconscious is “soaked up” with the self-talk that I HAVE CHOSEN to program my Self with…well…it won’t feel like I’m in
“Kansas” anymore! And this being my 3rd trip thru the Mental Cleanse…(if you can do it in 30 days…CELEBRATE!)…the changes in my thoughts and my ongoing mind-set are evident. The gradual change slips in and when you stop to take a look…what a nice surprise!
Does it come automatically??? NO!!! I’ve lived with ‘lack thinking’ for many years…my self-talk has to happen non-stop to keep my
thinking on the “abundance” side of the scale. Being on the MFF calls is part of that reprogramming process! I can’t say that I remember feeling that jolt when I’ve read this in the past! Mr. Schwab told them that their “shortsightedness lay in the fact that it restricted the market in an era when everything cried for expansion." So, I ask myself…are my daily activities reaching out for expansion…or clutching what I have now - close, so I don’t lose it?
Reaching out to gather abundance feels much different than clutching what little I have now closely so it doesn’t get away. I CHOOSE reaching out for abundance. And right under our noses is the perfect proven system of Mentoring For Free and untold numbers of leaders willing to reach out to guide and direct our every action IF we choose to ask for help and follow the recipe! And there’s abundance enough for all of us! 155,000 people per week looking for or signing up for a home based business in this world…and we know they’re not all getting into 5 Pillar companies. Now that’s abundance enough for us all.
Please, Please hear these words, right now at this time
IT IS LATER THAN YOU THINK!!